Sometimes when it becomes difficult to choose a side to be on,the fence is the best place to go. From there you can stay neutral to whatever is taking place around you. You can observe both sides in action at the same time and formulate your own conclusions based on those observations.
Unfortunately, you will not be able to stay there forever. At some point you will have to decide which way you are going to go. This does not necessarily mean that you will agree with one of the two opposing views. It is quite possible that from your observations a new point of view has come to light.You may have an opinion neither side has even considered.
Take care before you choose which side you are on, and if necessary stay on the fence a little while longer!
I have been noticing lately that a great number of people, through social media seem transfixed on ridding themselves of all the “negative” people in their lives. While this is a great idea, I think we need to define what is true negativity.
The person who is truly a negative force in your life is someone who tries to place hurdles in front of you. This may appear in the form of ideas they will feed to you. Or it may present itself in the form of someone physically doing something to inhibit your progress. It does not mean the person who may have said no to you because they are unable to help you at this time.
If you drop every person who says no to you, you will end up with a very short list of those to count on. Inevitably, these few people will run out of resources to assist you in the long run. It is important to recognize the difference here to avoid losing those who may be of assistance at a later time. You may not be in the position of helping someone when they might need it the most, but that does not make you a negative person. You might be able to assist them at another time. But if they cut you loose from their database they will never know.
Take care before eliminating people entirely. Weigh all the options while defining the negative impact others are having in your life, and remember to give more service than is required. It will come back to you tenfold!
The most difficult part of achieving your goal is moving on from where you have been. It is easy to work on your goals while doing the same things you have always done. The challenge comes in when you have reached your goal and it is time to say goodbye.
You will be saying goodbye to a great many things and people as well. While the people you used to work with will wish you well, secretly they will not want to see you go at all. For then it is better to stay where they know exactly what will happen even if that means nothing at all. Some people will caution you and question your ability to achieve all that you desire. These people will wish you well and at the same time try to convince you to stay with a sure thing.
Why risk everything on your goals when you can stay right where you are and watch others achieve their goals. All because it is easier to remain in the mediocrity that the majority live in rather than trying to be in the three percent of people who actually follow through!
Prepare yourself every step of the way for the time to come for Goodbye. Ignore all the excuses others will give you to remain where you have been. Wish them well on your way out!
When I talk to people about opportunity, they often think it means having the video that goes viral or the idea that will get them immediate global notoriety. And when they realize this probably will not be the case they shrug their shoulders and figure there is no point in bothering.
But the truth is most opportunity that is presented to us we ignore because we feel as though it won’t work out. Our concern over how to fit this new thing into our schedules can become so overwhelming that we never take advantage of it. Just recently I had a conversation with a woman who was at the park with her daughter and some other mother’s she had grown friendly with. One of the mother’s owns a day care facility. Knowing that the woman I was speaking to is excellent with small children, she offered her a position with her.
The woman I was speaking with , became so overwhelmed with trying to figure out how this opportunity would fit into her life she was ready to pass it up. She did not see it as an opportunity when in fact it is one. She was convinced the going back to school even though she had no idea what she was going back for was the thing to do. My advice is this: Do not worry how it will fit into your lifestyle. If it what you want to do and you have a passion for it, then all the pieces will come together.
Do not waste yet another day or moment ignoring opportunity when it presents itself. Take action and accept what is being offered , you just never where it might lead!
So many times people will say they are looking for an opportunity. They really want to do something new and different.But when the opportunity presents itself they talk themselves out of it. Maybe they say things like “Me?, why I can’t do that!” or “Maybe after I get some more training!” The reality is this: If you are looking for something and it comes your way, you had be ready.
At the very least ANSWER THE DOOR! The knocking you hear will not last forever. At some point you will be taken out of consideration and that chance will have dried up faster than a puddle in the hot desert sun. Before you begin looking at the opportunity prepare yourself. You would not cook a chicken in the packaging from the store would you? Of course not. Do the same with yourself! Prepare yourself for the time when you hear the knock of opportunity at your door!
It will come to you when you least expect it. And it may not come in exactly as you had planned. But that is the nature of true opportunity.Do not worry or concern yourself if you do not have everything lined up in a row. Go for it! This opportunity may only knock once!
Many people will tell you they are stuck in a rut and cannot figure out why. They will say that they have looked at doing others things over the years but somehow those things never seemed to pan out. The truth about ruts is this. They proved us with a comfort zone. Whether that zone is good or bad. We know what to expect from the rut. Ruts also provide us shelter from the unknown. We do not have to worry about the weather outside of our rut which would bring us uncertainty.
When a person decides to take a chance on doing something different with their lives they will often not stray too far from their rut. They might take a few baby steps away from the rut enough to peek at the outside world without completely abandoning their current circumstances.
In order to make a change, there are things they will have to leave behind. They will have to view this change as though they are permanently moving. They will have to pack up all their hopes and dreams along with their desires and passion. They will need these things to bring to the next phase of their lives for without them no real change will occur. They need not fear any hostility from the outside as they already have all the outerwear they will ever need.This is not to suggest there will not be any difficult times ahead, because with change comes challenges.
Give more service than is required and it will be returned to you tenfold!
- “Stuck in a Rut” (michaelcupo40.wordpress.com)
- Life is a Matter of Habit (ptbertram.wordpress.com)
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- Wilfred: Ryan Realizes Hes in a Rut (twcc.com)
- 9 Fast and Furious Ways to Get Out of a Rut (chantylchaney.wordpress.com)
- Stuck in a rut (elanimalmoral.wordpress.com)
- just keep moving (justlaurel.com)
- How to Avoid Circling Back (pamboyd.wordpress.com)
- Comfort (lmlewiswrites.wordpress.com)
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If you had the opportunity to see the future would you take it? Before you answer that question consider the following. Life is made up of experiences not all of them pleasant. Along the way we have many gains and many losses. What we gain in material possessions is often offset by losses of those whose time has come to leave us here. We might not know when these things are going to happen, but it is the excitement that a promotion at work, the birth of a child, or a sudden windfall brings that makes our lives worth living. Equally as important, is the passing or loss of those we had in our lives. When we gather to mourn their absence we should also take stock of what they have left us with that will live on. Knowing these things that are to come in advance might leave us looking for excitement elsewhere.
Before you wish to know the exact details of the future, appreciate where you have been and all that you have had in your life. Sometimes that is enough to predict where you will go in the future.
Our youth are our glimpse into the future. But what are we as parents really preparing them for? if you are still chauffeuring your son/daughter everywhere and allowing them to “find their way”, the only place they will end up is on your couch. While we all want our children to be happy, we must not forget to “expect” things of our offspring.
Given the demands of our children’s time, it may not be feasible to “expect” them to do traditional chores. However, they should be “expected” to clean their rooms,do their own laundry and yes help with the dishes after a meal. The more we allow them to become our friends the less likely they are to want to grow up and take on responsibility.
They do not have to be an “A” student to be successful. There are plenty of community colleges around to assist them to achieve more than they may have in high school. Maybe you have a child who does not do well in the traditional classes and instead would like to pursue a trade. That is a blessing. Because the last time I tried to call a plumber he told me I would have to wait three weeks before he could get to me.
Whatever your child is gravitating to, guide them and help them to be as successful in their endeavors as possible. Cast aside your own ideas of what they should be in your eyes and embrace who they are. When you allow them to follow their true passion you will see things in them you thought they did not possess. They will surprise you, with commitment you did not think they had.